Whether you were with your ex for a few months or a few years, the pain of losing the love of your life can be too much to bare. We have all been there before, the time after a break up can feel as if our whole lives have crumbled down around us and it can make us do some crazy things.
One of the biggest mistakes you can make right now is to try everything and anything to get in contact with your ex. If your ex has told you to stay away and keep your distance then you need to respect their wishes no matter how much you want to see their face or simply hear their voice.
If you are guilty of possibly stalking your ex by following their whereabouts whether it is in the flesh or monitoring their online activities then it is time to take a few deep breathes. The very last thing you want to do is to make your ex run for the hills or worse get others involved that can pretty much destroy any chance you may have to reunite one day.
Try to not be jealous or bitter especially if you suspect that your ex has left you for someone else or is interested in someone else. It is very easy to start walking down this dangerous path that can lead you to say and do some crazy things when emotions are running wild.
It is critical to keep your distance. This means that you avoid picking up your cell phone and texting your ex or emailing them or checking out what they are up to on social network sites like Facebook! You may not be ready right now to know the truth even though you deserve answers it can make the pain so much worse and the wounds so much deeper.
Modern technology has pretty much destroyed what little privacy we once had. The last thing you want to do is sit in front your computer and read all of your ex’s Facebook status updates, posts and other details. I know you are curious to know what he or she is up to and who they are spending their time with but do you really want to know the answers to these questions?
Break ups can make us say and do some crazy things, hell, many of us are guilty of saying things that we end up regretting especially when we know the pain and frustration we have caused.
Don’t drive past your ex’s house, don’t ask his friends what he is up to and whatever you do don’t email them or call them at work to chat. It is time to keep your distance and give them the space they have been asking for. It is not uncommon for many people to get the authorities involved especially if they feel that you have lost the plot and they are concerned about their safety.
While this advice may feel like common sense kind of stuff it may shock you just how many men and women are guilty of stalking their ex and wanting to know their every move. It is time to let go, especially if you want nothing more than to get back together with your ex one day.