One of the biggest mistakes most people make when trying to get their lover back is apologizing for anything and everything they believe they did wrong in the relationship. While taking responsibility and being mature is critical to a successful relationship, more often than not it can leave your ex infuriated.
The reason why saying sorry isn’t enough is because it doesn’t show you understand the root causes for the problems in your relationship. Too many ex’s are quick to apologize profusely in the hope of having their lover reconsider the break up, this doesn’t always work and you must stop immediately.
Regardless of the reason for your break up, you need to know that you must understand where your ex is coming from and walk in their shoes. Don’t let your ego or pride stand in the way of successfully turning things around, relationships are hard work but with hard work comes great results.
Give your ex some space and a little time for emotions to settle down. Show your ex that you can be respectful of his or her decision. You must understand that your ex has their reasons for leaving, no matter how much you disagree with them you must accept this fact. Nothing will get your ex to magically say yes to taking you back if he or she feels as if you do not understand them and why they can no longer continue in the relationship.
The best thing you can do is listen, if you are still on speaking terms it is time to start listening and start understanding what went wrong and why. Don’t use the blame game or take blame for everything that went wrong in the relationship, this will just show your ex that you simply are trying to say all the right things instead of understanding the REAL underlying issues.
Break ups are not always final, in fact most break ups can be reversed and stopped if you can stop your emotions from dictating your actions.
You have nothing to lose right now and everything to gain by changing your approach and taking some of this advice on board. Nothing works like magic but doing the right things because you want to not because you think it will trick your ex to taking you back is a great start.